Your arrangement sounds really cool. Measure your words with that assumption in mind. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. So no one is left out. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. We can only celebrate the nonentity because we are afraid of hurting those who are not being celebrated "today". American LDS women who attended Sacrament Meeting were told that they have a lot of innate qualities, such as being righteous, spiritual, pure, or nurturing. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. Celebrating motherhood somehow demeans mothers by making them feel guilty for not having been "good" mothers. I meant an ideal not an idea! She talked about how when she was single she was very shallow, only cared about clothes and makeup and boys, didnt prepare herself spiritually, didnt have much of a testimony, and then upon marrying found herself extremely immature and woefully unprepared to be a spiritual leader in her home. Glad as I can be Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." Just after she became a beehive, her mother had an affair. This is what I need for . Many said not to assignmother or female focused messages in sacrament meeting, others said to keep your effortssimple as long as it is sincere. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. This morning I decided to Google search Mothers Day LDS talks and came upon this article. More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. I want to hear about the mother who lost all her children, because she made a lot of mistakes. I asked a mother and daughter to sing the main lines, and then I had the . So He can be ideal AND real. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! He also shares ways a mother can become the first line of defense against the wiles of the world., RELATED: 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood. Reading over those messages, it is hard to come up with any form of consensus other than, everyone has a different opinion. It seems sometimes that activity organizers believe somehow that no one will participate if not bribed by pizza, pop, potato chips or pie. Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. It was perhaps the best talk I gave as a bishop. don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Something else for me to kill.. The main message I gathered from reviewing this survey is, keep it simple, dont try tohave specific female messages during the meetings, and then serve a fun refreshment in the third hourjust because. For those who disagreed with my thoughts (above) about our needing ideals to aim at in our lives, I fell upon a quote from C.S. Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. However, the restored gospel is true and is a steady guide for us in nagivating the oftimes foggy seas of life. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. Thank you. Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. All women should strive to be strong, and can become strong. Yeah. Gospel Q&A: How Can I Find and Foster Celestial Love? Its hard to please everyone. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. Talk topics could be: - examples in the scriptures (Eve, Ruth, Naomi, Esther, Sarah, Mary, Sariah, etc), - early Saints (Lucy Mack, Emma, Eliza R Snow, Aurelia Rogers, etc), - influence of (teachers, nurses, aunts, grandmas, etc). Being Mother's Day, that meant the soft seats up front were filled with grandmothers and other maternal figures visiting for the weekend, which meant latecomers like the Lemons got metal seats in the back this week. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! The speakers were: 70-year-old married sister w/ no children; mid-30s sister who works full-time, dh is the stay-at-home parent, and theyve adopted 2 children through the foster care system; and a single sister. Serious question for everyone, just out of true curiosity: How many of these horror stories happened in the last five years? What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? I dont think sacrament meeting is such an inappropriate place to do that, either. Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? How cool someone reading my rambling! And chocolate. #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. Young Latter-day Saint priesthood . The only thing I might try if I were in charge would be to put out pink, white, red carnations and safety pins and invite everyone in the ward to wear a carnation to honor their mother pink/red if shes living, white if shes passed away. This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! It was a nice meeting. Even now, 4 years after her passing, I miss her. Just wondering. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, Ziff, thank you. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. I have seen, heard and experienced much of the imperfections, joys and sorrows in life, and know that reaching out for and holding on to the Iron Rod brings souls closer to the ideals with every step. And the Uchtdorf talk on grace from last conference and his talk on the flowers might be good ones. Oh, we also get candy bars with the flowers, music in sacrament and the 3rd hour social time. I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. I was honored to have known her, and to have been able to claim her as my own. . #16 They asked him to speak again?! Like many others, my wife and her mother have both always struggled with hearing sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day. Uchtdorf. All my daily tasks fulfilling, Which isnt necessarily a bad thing. I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. I come to church to be fed spiritually, and sappy poems and stories are never ever going to measure up to the meat that scriptural examples can provide. I have nine children, eight grown, am temple divorced and remarried to a nomo. Mothers Day theme, is the spirit is trying to witness to us at what a dumb idea it is. Cant we just give praise and gratitude for the atonement, and human goodness and resiliance inspite its adversity and imperfection? I dont like the sappy talks about the perfect mothers. We teach that you are basically good or even great (gods in embryo), that you are responsible for your actions and that you can actually make other people do what is right through prayer and works especially your children, that the sins you accumulate both those of commission and omission are entirely your fault, that Christ is not really in the middle of the picture until you really screw up and commit something unforgiveable like adultery and that you need to try harder to keep every one of those commandments or you are going to lose your reward of having a planet & of having eternal sex , and the celestial DFAC will snatch your children from you and destroy your perfect family sprouting from the buried nuts of polygamy where mother valently hoisted the impossible burdens. I feel for how it hurts people to attend church and the sorrows they bear. After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! I hope none of you mind if I quote from this. Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. His topic? He invites mothers to count the debits and credits in your role as a mother. President Hinckley then goes through a number of important gospel teachings mothers should focus on. That cost a war pension. Give the gift of time. Below, youll find an excerpt from each talk and a link to the full text. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. Because school is out in June, Fathers get the bum end of the deal when it comes to recognition. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. They cannot eat it, and in fact just having the stuff around is a serious temptation to do so. In the UK, my experience has been that sacrament has at least one talk and often a few. Is it callender time, number of posts, how irritated the host is with the comments! The Puritans werent big on celebrations, so they dropped it when they colonized Massachussetts. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. If I would obtain the blessing, So be kind to her. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. Aleah Ingram Why is that or is that just in my ward? Get plenty HPs and Elders. I think Ill check myself in to a nice bed and breakfast. Ugh ugh ugh. Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. Questions and Answers about the Sacrament, Remember Jesus Christ during the Sacrament, The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part1: Loss and Christian Reformations), The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part2: A New and Ancient Covenant), Sharing Time: Be Grateful for the Sacrament, Viewpoint: The Sacred Ordinance of the Sacrament, Young Men, Teach about the Sacrament, Brother Beck Says. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. The worst talk I ever heard came from a woman who described how her mother used to sit by her during piano lessons. I remember being confused by a few Mothers Day talks growing up. A friend once proposed a thought experiment. In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. We changed the lines to "Mother Do You Love Me". I chuckled, but was not surprised when I saw that chocolate was the most popular! But since we have instituted Mothers Day as the day my family ditches church and meets my parents at Shoshone Falls for a picnic, I look forward to it every year. This talk by Sheri Dew focuses on how motherhood is for all women, regardless if they have children or not. As far as Jesus is concerned, he was sinless so is able to stand as an ideal. I have work enough to do, I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. I was dreading it, but I was rescued by my sister coming to town for the next 3 days yayyyy. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. Aiming for Heaven is again looking to the sinless for examples, not to an episode of Leave it to Beaver. I thought my husband (Sonny) had already posted this, but maybe not, or Im just blinder than usual. Ere the sun goes down. Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. I know some women get upset because they arent mothers, but it doesnt bother me. If you want to hear from real women who haveread scriptures andheld FHEand family prayer, but whose son is in jail or whose 16-year-old daughter is pregnant or whose husband has left her, then you should meet in the cultural hall. Yes! Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. A break from the primary room!) Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. Although I like the idea of them as well! It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Some few are probably actively trying to avoid the gifts, trying hard to not remember the lack thats been rubbed in her face all day long. *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. For sacrament meeting, we can give the men a sternly worded warning about the danger of tehpernogriffiez. Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009. Its a complete set-up for failure. Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. ( Bonus: You get to visit Relief Society and YW! That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. No one tries to probe for subliminal meaning in the choice of Fat Boys. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. Preparation Print the song pages. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. Can I suggest NOT sending the youth out hunting all women? I have seen women leave the meeting in tears, and I know others who have learned, through sad experience, that it is best for them to take a break from church on Mothers Day. What does that say about the role of motherhood? But guess what?! April 24, 2015 in General Discussions. So far, so good. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. Thanks, kc! My husband told me to stop focusing on myself and think about who mothered me instead. Aim at earth and you get neither. Feel free to disagree with Lewis as well, but I feel like Im in pretty good company at this moment! Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. Topical Guide, Assembly for Worship, Index to the Triple Combination, Assemble, Meetings in the Church, Handbook 2, 18, Speaking in Sacrament Meeting? youth.ChurchofJesusChrist.org, Is Sacrament Meeting a Top-of-the-Mountain Experience for You? 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However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. I'm fascinated by these two suggestions because I was leaning toward only having youth and men speak so that all the mothers had the day off. We were utterly gobsmacked.
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